People


people who evolved , right from the realization of being indistinctive to an animal.

the keyword here is feeling. the feeling of differentiating between right and wrong.

Hard to admit mistakes

All humans are essentially ego-driven creatures. Starting from a young age we develop an identity — a self-concept and self-image — constructed of our beliefs and how we view ourselves. Most of us think of ourselves as pretty decent people, better than average in certain areas, maybe a little worse than average in a few, but always trying to do our best. We believe we see the world realistically, and act rationally.

When we make mistakes, the gap between our questionable behavior and our sterling self-concept creates cognitive dissonance. We can allay this dissonance either by admitting that we made a mistake and reevaluating our self-concept in light of it, or by justifying the behavior as not in conflict with our self-concept after all. Here are some examples:

• You think of yourself as an honest man, but you cheated on your last exam. You can either:

Admit that cheating is wrong and that maybe you’re not as honest as you thought. Or,

Justify the cheating by saying that a lot of other students were doing it too, so it really just leveled the playing field.

• You think of yourself as a decent guy and have been casually sleeping with a girl over the course of a few months. You’ve never talked about the relationship, and when she admits she has feelings for you, and you shut her down, she’s pretty crushed. You can either:

Acknowledge that you should have set clear parameters for the relationship and admit you had a role to play in her hurt feelings and didn’t treat her decently. Or,

Tell yourself that you never said anything about a relationship and that it was entirely her fault for letting herself get attached.

You think of yourself as a good friend but one night when you’re out drinking with your buddy you bring up your bitter feelings about something he did in the past, and try to start a fight with him. You can either:

Admit that you’ve been nursing a grudge and didn’t tell him, which isn’t something a good friend would do. Or,

Say that you were totally trashed and didn’t know what you were doing.

• You think of yourself as a smart, cutting-edge academic, but when you present a paper you’ve been working on for years, your colleagues point out numerous errors in your conclusions. You can either:

Acknowledge the mistakes and reevaluate your theory and research methods. Or,

Accuse your colleagues of jealously, narrow-mindedness, or bias.

We all get into a hyper defense mode when asked to admit our mistakes. We seek every opportunity to find reasons to push to something else rather than take it on us. 

wondering how will it end

It does feel right!!

We might have said this to ourselves so many times while having those sweet little moments in our relationships.

The trouble comes when we start thinking how is it going to end. Really does that matter???

I completely understand if you don't get it the first time. What about the second time? Have you felt that this person is the one I would love to see every morning of my life. Even if you do not get that thought is it wrong. Carrie asked this question to Big in the movie : "are the two of us enough? "
Sometimes two is just right.
There is no need to panic if the thought never came to you , trust me its just fine. There are couples who just live in the day, they are really not worried whats gonna happen next day or week or a month or a year or years for that matter.
The idea is to not miss the moments which are right here and just right for both. It makes perfect sense to you and you want to keep reliving it.

Feel  the moment ,embrace the moment and enjoy.

that was different!!!!!!

Really !!!


It so happens that women would always have several ways of looking at any incident no matter how many times it occurs in their life.

I was talking to Rubina today in the elevator. She shared exactly same instance that happened twice on her life. And I realized that on both occasions her reactions were different. I was compelled to ask her that she dint react the same way the last time , to which she candidly replied . " that was different "
Anyways it so happened that her father bumped into an old college friend at the mall, while they were shopping. Her father usually would introduce her to a friend , however this time he somehow missed it.
And that my friend was so upsetting to her.

He had done this before too and she dint pay much attention to and today she was upset about it.

"That was different is all she could say"

I wish I knew you earlier

read a post on Facebook

"when someone says : I wish I knew you earlier"

It got me thinking, when would someone say that.

Probably in a situation where we  find similar tastes and choices with someone else. What would the feeling be like.

No one has said this to me yet , has someone told you about this.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ax_qroAvN4I


in the world of web series here comes a refreshing one 

It seems to be a happy world out there..


I loved the new nescafe AD where the RJ says ki koi aapko sun nahi raha hai ...